Listen, I get it. I truly do. You want and need help and attention for your cause. You want to know that people see and care about what is happening.
But more often than not, it is always the ones (mostly women) who speak up and out most about many subjects already, normally Black women or women of colour, and queer people, who are most pressured to take on the entire world’s other problems too... rather than our powerful/straight/white/male counterparts who do frankly fuck all ever about anything. You expect them to not care so you don’t pressure them. You can see we care so you demand us taking on your issue. It is entirely understandable logic. But it’s not realistic, nor is it fair on us. We are already moving targets because of the issues we already take on.
When women, in particular, speak out about war, we are sent horrifying, personal and often terrifying private abuse. Almost entirely from men. This is the experience of a lot of my friends and myself.
The choice to not speak up about every single war, every single injustice, every single crime against humanity, on earth... doesn’t mean we don’t know, don’t care, or aren’t helping/donating privately. It just means there is only so much any individual can take on meaningfully.
I am OF COURSE always against military/police assault of innocent civilians.
I also want to point out to the men messaging me in DM that I’m useless or a coward for not speaking up about what you want me to... when I go back through your messages to me, over the past few years, there is NO mention of support from you, for the things I fight for, like the safety of women in India, or the safety of Black trans women in America, or gay rights in Russia. You’ve normally just commented on my legs...
As a mental health advocate I advocate also for my own peace. I wish I was a superhero who could take on all the world’s issues by myself. But I’m not, I’m an actress, with a past of mental illness doing my best to be helpful to people in the ways I know how.
I also wish that men weren’t so violent towards women who speak out.